Who is this James Bauer guy, anyway? A complete guide from your relationship guru, Kylie Morgan.
Who is James Bauer?
Let me introduce you to James Bauer, a relationship expert if you haven’t already heard of him.
When all seems lost in a relationship or a love affair, he steps in to save the day.
“Bauer, James Bauer,” the love agent, reporting for duty.
And he’s prepared to fire the hero’s gun, putting an end to all of his fears, insecurities, and unrequited feelings of love.
In His Secret Obsession, Bauer explains how to find love, keep it, and deal with love issues.
If you’re having love issues and need a strong ally, Bauer is your man.
Bauer’s realization of the hero instinct shook up the conventional love of romantic relationships. The process sidelined other dating coaches and relationship experts.
Because Bauer completely demolished their business strategy.
He has saved countless marriages and partnerships by explaining the hero instinct and how to activate it.
Considering him a hero
Simply put, the hero instinct is the desire to take charge and help others. Every man has an inherent yearning to do heroic deeds.
As a woman, you have the freedom to wave his hero flag in a world where men are increasingly stifled from doing so in public or in the workplace.
Bringing out men’s innate desire to be protectors and providers is the key to awakening their hero instinct.
It’s easy and effective when you do it in your natural way. And that’s what creates love and friendship that lasts.
Bauer’s most valuable instruction consists of the following:
(Check out this great free video by James Bauer that provides a video summary of his top lessons.)
James Bauer maintains that love is alive and well.
With extensive experience as a dating and relationship coach, James Bauer is a psychologist who specializes in relationships.
Many women can attribute their success in love to his guidance, and he has helped many couples overcome their lack of romance.
Professionally, Bauer lives by the mantra “be irresistible,” which he imparts to his female students.
Bauer says that he hopes to glorify “a unique combination of characteristics that arise from a state of joy, genuine self-assurance, and the kind of inner beauty that tugs at a man’s heartstrings.”
Bauer didn’t just stumble into his knowledge. When he figured out the secret to love, he immediately thought of a female friend who was suffering through a terrible breakup.
When Bauer’s friend confided in him, he was working as a relationship coach for singles and couples.
She sought out his opinion because she was aware of his expertise and extensive background in psychology. As a result of her lack of love in the romantic department, she began to feel hopeless about her situation.
Bauer recognized the issue right away and started offering dating advice to his friend. There was a reversal in her love life.
The words of Bauer sum up the situation nicely:
For as long as I can remember, studying and writing about social dynamics has been one of my primary interests. But this has reawakened in me a hunger for those rare nuggets of insight that have the transformative power of a hundred similar insights put together, and I intend to share them with the world.
Bauer’s major finding was the result of a synthesis of his studies.
He was able to identify and define the core male motivators (beyond sports, alcohol, and sexuality).
He discovered the factors that cause a man to either fall in love or ghost. He finally figured out how to stop living in hopelessness and start living a life full of love.
Why His Secret Obsession Has Captivated Me
Obviously, I have a thing for His Secret Obsession.
This is because the book answers all of my questions about love and attraction in a way that is both clear and easy to read. The answers can be found on the page, and they are all logical.
Even better is that it actually functions.
This is not a book about gimmicks or “tricks,” but rather it is grounded in sound relationship psychology and offers love into the reasons men either fall in or out of love.
What motivates men to either commit or flee is revealed in His Secret Obsession. It isn’t overly complicated, but it does delve deeply into evolutionary biology and psychology. You can learn how to win a man’s heart without coming across as preachy or corny.
Bauer’s breakdown of the hero instinct and how to activate it is clear and useful.
The hero instinct is summed up in a short 12-word passage that Bauer writes about; I’ve memorised it.
It’s a great way to summarize and remember the key ways to trigger the hero instinct that Bauer outlines in His Secret Obsession, and its 12 words are related to everything else in the book.
One revolutionary idea from Bauer
A lot of people misunderstand Bauer’s concept of the hero instinct, despite its apparent simplicity.
When they hear the central idea, they automatically conclude that it’s all about adoring and obeying one man. The couple watches helplessly as their connection eventually dies.
To be a caveman is not what the hero instinct is about. None of the content is misogynistic in any way.
Activating the hero instinct requires striking a harmony between the masculine and feminine energies in a partnership.
Since prehistoric times, men have felt an innate urge to take on the role of provider and protector. They no longer have time for that because of modern life.
Nowadays, society arguably “needs” men less than it did in the past. And it hurts men, causing them to withdraw emotionally and socially.
Similarly, in their relationships.
A man is less likely to see a woman as a long-term partner if she is too strong-willed and assertive in her appearance.
His feelings for her won’t last long, and his selfless nature won’t emerge to save the day.
Without pretending or trying too hard, letting your man be a protector and provider will activate his hero instinct.
Can you really find love with James Bauer’s help?
I think he can do it. The reason I have love in Bauer to help you with your romantic problems is basic:
He helped me out a lot.
My love life and general sense of self-assurance took a huge leap forwards after I read and absorbed the lessons in His Secret Obsession.
My on-again, off-again boyfriend is now a committed on-again boyfriend, and I attribute a good deal of the change to Bauer.
Upon reading His Secret Obsession, I was able to identify the ways in which our relationship was awry and the steps I could take, no matter how small, to rectify the situation. Thanks to you, it solved the problem.
There’s no shortage of so-called “experts” willing to share their insights on how to improve your romantic love, but the vast majority of it is complete nonsense.
What Bauer is saying is not the usual nonsense. In other words, he’s telling it to you straight whether you like it or not. That, if you ask me, is the main thing.
You can find plenty of other books that will tell you the same tired New Age platitudes about love and romance.
Bauer, on the other hand, is the place to go if you’re looking for down-to-earth, honest, and useful guidance on how to navigate romantic relationships.
James Bauer has done some amazing work on the subject of relationships, and I think you should check it out. This is the real deal, and it does the job. Otherwise, I wouldn’t spend the time writing this.
Many individuals’ romantic lives and relationships are only scratching the surface of their full potential.
Saddens me is witnessing the dissolution of relationships that had such promising potential.
I also love hearing about people who have successfully implemented Bauer’s advice and have achieved remarkable success as a result.
I highly recommend this free video on James Bauer’s heroic drive.
This video addresses the most frequent issues in romantic partnerships and explains how and why the hero complex can help mend broken hearts.