How To Attract The RIGHT Man For You

Key Takeaways:

  • Focus on who you are and what you’re looking for
  • Understand that attraction is not the same as compatibility
  • Identify the common traits of your ideal man
  • Learn to recognize when someone is or isn’t the right man for you
  • Commit to lifelong learning about relationships and yourself

Do you feel like you keep meeting Mr. Wrong?

How badly do you want to meet “Mr. Right?”

While it may feel impossible right now, I promise you there are things you can do to help attract the right men into your life.

Disqualifying Characteristics for Attracting Men

Now that I’m a little bit older (okay, a lot older! ), I feel sick thinking about how I used to act around the guys I liked when I was younger. When I had feelings for a guy, I’d frequent the same bars and clubs he frequented. I’d make it look like I needed help just so he’d pay attention to me.

I’d go all clingy on him and follow him around like a puppy, practically begging for attention. I would love to spend every waking moment with a guy if I were in a relationship with him. If he desired to spend time with his friends, it would make me envious. Really, it was the worst nightmare imaginable!

That explains why I started getting interested in the wrong types of guys. When I was in a relationship, the guys could see how desperate I was. It would be obvious to them that I was a useful asset. so they could use me as a pawn. That I could be easily influenced.

In fact, I discovered that for a while, the only men who approached me were players or men looking for a temporary girlfriend.

After being single for some time, I was able to observe the actions of others, which in turn helped me to better understand my own. Finally, I realized what a dolt I’d been. Men were bound to take advantage of me if I gave off those vibes.

How did I find the kind of man I should be with? I don’t mean to sound condescending, but you learn to be more at ease in your own skin as you get older. Your sense of self-assurance increases. As you mature, you learn to recognize and appreciate the qualities that make you attractive to others and those that do not.

What Characteristics Do We Admire?

If you’re having trouble visualizing what kind of man you want in your life, ask yourself what qualities you look for in a good friend. With that in mind, what characteristics would you seek out?

One who is faithful, perhaps. Someone who will always be there for you? One who cheers you on and gives you encouragement? Maybe. All of those are wonderful traits to have in a partner, but I’m referring to the initial spark that set off the relationship.

Let’s begin again. What about someone who enjoys life? Or perhaps someone who is financially secure and self-reliant? Now, what about a person who has everything in check? Someone who makes an effort with their appearance and treats others with kindness? A person with a lot of friends and a soft spot for critters? Someone who gets along well with their relatives?

These are the endearing traits. Why? Due to the fact that they demonstrate the multifaceted nature of this individual. Obviously, this person has a wonderful life as it is. Someone else isn’t required to improve their quality of life. Yes, they have one.

In reality, luck would be on your side if they invited you to share their life with them. Nobody wants to be associated with a failure, after all. A negative or depressing event or circumstance. When you break it down, it’s not that complicated.

All right, let’s get right down to business. Suppose you’re out there trying to find love but aren’t having much luck. To find your soulmate, are you prepared to take some risks? So, here’s my guidance on how to entice a man — not just any man, but the one you should be with.

How to Find Love: Seventeen Strategies

1. Adopt the traits of a potential suitor.

If you aren’t doing what the right guy is doing, he won’t notice you. So, you say you adore nature but rarely leave the house. You’re a car race fan who never attends events, right? You like nerds but you spend your free time in the fitness center.

We tend to become like the friends we keep. You won’t find the fit gym bunny eating at McDonald’s every day. If you want to attract the right kind of person, you need to be that person.

Is it difficult to convince him to hang out with you? Understanding men’s emotions on a deeper level is the key to finding a solution. The most important cause of men’s behavior like this can be altered with just a few well-placed words.

Find out if his feelings for you are more than just platonic by taking this test.

2. Drop your ties to whatever it was that set you off

It’s simple to poison a new relationship with baggage from an old one. Each of us is vulnerable to certain stimuli. Dogs are one of my many interests. A exed boyfriend of mine did not take kindly to my dog. I didn’t think he was cruel, but I ended up taking the dog away from him.

But I still get angry if anyone criticizes my dogs, even after 20 years. It’s crucial to be aware of any potential triggers, as they likely have nothing to do with your current partner and everything to do with your previous one.

3. Build up your confidence.

When you don’t value yourself, no one else will. If you want to attract a man, you should focus on becoming a whole person first.

You need not seek out a partner to complete you. You should strive to improve upon your current self. Women who are strong and capable of making their own decisions are more likely to attract men. Needy, desperate women don’t interest them. Put out a strong signal, and the right people will find you.

4. Realize that you are worthy of being loved

That’s the natural result of self-awareness and self-love. The good things of life are often taken for granted by those who feel unworthy. But you’ll never get it if you don’t believe in it. You must realize that joy is your due. You deserve to be loved because you are wonderful.

5. Have faith

Confidence is the one thing that attracts men. The truth is that guys won’t automatically assume you’re attractive just because of your physical appearance. But self-assurance is necessary.

You can attract a man’s attention with a swagger of the hips, a dazzling smile, and a witty put down. Let your natural sexiness shine through and men will grovel at your feet.

6. Just be you

What do you think many men would say if asked what they found most appealing about women? What made them feel safe enough to be authentic was the fact that they were not being watched. They could relax and not act.

You probably can anticipate my recommendation. Yes! That you follow suit 100%. Open yourself up to male scrutiny and let them see how ridiculous you can be. Laugh at your own follies and missteps without feeling bad about it. Use humor or wit to put yourself at ease. Simply be yourself.

7. Do your best to keep broadening your own horizons

The more available men you are open to dating, the wider your horizons will be. The more effort you put into developing your character and your femininity, the more likely it is that a man who is interested in you will notice you.

Go see the world, enroll in classes, and broaden your mind. Hundreds, if not thousands, of eligible males will be drawn to you.

8. Do what you can to stand on your own two feet

Being self-sufficient has many advantages. Some women I know simply cannot stand being single for even one second, so they jump from one partner to the next. While they may have achieved economic independence, they have not done so emotionally.

Become a woman who can support herself emotionally and monetarily by working toward this goal. In order to be a complete human being when the right man finally enters your life.

9. Put your interests on display

I once went on a date with a girl who enlightened me to the fascinating paradox of the “Double Slit” experiment in quantum physics. I highly recommend researching it if you are unfamiliar; it is very interesting. It’s the observed behavioral change of light particles.

Her date asked her to marry him after she had finished explaining the specifics. Of course, her response was laughter, but a few months later they were married. That’s when he knew she was the one, he told his friends later; he saw the fire in her eyes as she described the experiment.

10. Share the fruits of your extensive networking

Is there a single quality that demonstrates to a man that you have a complete personality? A large and supportive social network and a solid network of family and relatives. It’s reassuring to know that someone can keep long-lasting friendships going strong.

We can infer someone’s capacity to form meaningful relationships from the degree to which they value their family. All of these are positive indicators of a healthy, balanced person.

11. Take pride in how you look

Don’t go overboard with cosmetic enhancements like a boob job or lip fillers; just make sure to keep yourself clean and dress nicely. High-heeled shoes, for example, can be uncomfortable if you’re not used to wearing them.

Put on whatever makes you feel good. Keep your hair and makeup under control by getting regular trims.

12. Keep your options open

There’s no better time than now to abandon your preconceived notions and stereotypes. It’s possible that tall dark men have always caught your eye. Blond, short guys never get your attention. Perhaps he was the one all along and you just didn’t notice him.

If you’re willing to consider options beyond those that immediately appeal to you, you might find something wonderful. Keep in mind that outward appearances fade while inner qualities endure.

13. Never give up hope

By maintaining your desperation, you’ll attract the wrong type of man to date you. Certainly, it’s depressing to see your friends and coworkers enjoying fulfilling romantic relationships while you’re left feeling lonely and isolated. However, enjoying some time alone is not without its benefits.

Put it to good use boosting your own sense of worth and dignity. Keep in mind that men can detect a needy woman from a mile away, and that they will take advantage of her.

14. Try Not to Get Caught Playing Hard to Get

Playing hard-to-get is the antonym of desperation. Men are innately drawn to the thrill of the chase. Something that requires effort is highly valued by them. Be the kind of woman men have to work for. Do not hand over the goods on the first night!

15. Get clear on your goals.

The best policy is always honesty, but many women feel they can’t admit they want a relationship. You will, at the very least, eliminate the pretenders.

16. Experiment with a brand new approach

It’s time to break free of your old routine. Insanity is defined as doing something repeatedly and expecting a different outcome. If you find that you consistently attract the wrong types of men, try shaking things up a bit.

If you always buy the drinks, try not to this time, and if you never bring up your emotions, now is the time to start. I think you get the drift.

17. Now go out and do it!

If you don’t actually go out and put this dating advice to use, it won’t help you much. To date Mr. Right, you must actively seek him out.


What can I do to make the right man want to be in my life?

If you aim to improve yourself by becoming the best version of yourself, you will succeed. I have faith that we get back in life exactly what we put out there. So if you are optimistic and make an effort to better yourself, you will find a man who shares your values.

Help! I can’t seem to get the guy I like’s attention!

When you project an upbeat attitude, you naturally draw like-minded individuals. The same is true of negativity. Appreciating what you have is crucial. Never judge yourself against anyone else. Take charge of your own life and do what you want. Enjoy life to the fullest, and the right guy will come along.

Exactly how does one go about luring the ideal partner?

Being assured in oneself is essential. Nobody likes being around someone who is constantly critical of themselves. The wrong kind of people will be drawn to you. When you begin to value yourself, that confidence will inevitably rub off on those around you.

If you want to be loved, how do you go about doing that?

It’s impossible to inspire others to treat us with kindness and compassion unless we first treat ourselves with those qualities. You can’t expect a good relationship if you don’t believe you deserve it. But if you present yourself as a prize worth fighting for, quality men will be drawn to you.

What should I do in 2022 to find love?

These are, without a doubt, times that have never been seen before. The rules of courtship have fundamentally shifted. But if you want to find love, look no further than your own interests. If you are the outdoorsy type, for instance, it would be wise to take long walks. You could find a kindred spirit in your pursuits. Join a class if you fancy yourself a creative soul.


Now you know the answer. Here is my guidance on how to entice men into your life. I really appreciate you taking the time to read this. And please let me know if you have any suggestions.